Nothing

He’s gone and for once I’m at a loss of words. Nothing.

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124 responses to “Nothing

  1. stephanie

    Im so so sorry!

    • Becky

      I am sooo sorry for you terrible loss. This isn’t fair and I can’t even imagine what you and your family are going through right now…it’s gotta be hell. Please know that the SEMOT group loves you and your family and we are going to be there for you. You are and were an incredible mother to Owen all the way to the end. You are in my prayers always.

    • Aimee

      From the bottom of our hearts…we are so sorry for your loss. We continue to pray for you all.

    • Samantha

      Praying that God is with you and your family through this hard time. I know he is with baby Owen holding him tight and he no longer is in pain. Baby Owen was loved by many in his short time.

    • dede

      you are the most courageous woman I know. Bless you for your strength, for taking such care with your son, for sharing your heartbreaking thoughts with all of us. Let us lift you up now and you can rest. Blessings to all of your family.

  2. alishan

    My God I am so sorry. I wish I had words that would bring even the slightest comfort but they do not exist. Just know that we are praying for you now and always.

    xo

  3. Anna Marie

    My heart breaks for you. I am so sorry.

  4. Becky McCormick

    Mel….I am so,so sorry for you and your family….please know that you all will be in my prayers….<3

  5. Sarah

    Praying for Owen and peace for you.

  6. I’m so deeply sad and sorry for your loss Melissa. I’m praying for you to find peace and comfort.

  7. jodi

    i am praying for you and doug’s peace.

    i’m empty. i have no words that can possibly take away your pain. no words that can make this better. i am just so sorry.

  8. Annie

    I am so very sorry for you. I am praying for you… And will be be praying for you for years to come.
    Warmly, with peace,
    Annie
    Phil. 1:3

  9. Paula

    Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts.

  10. Heidi

    I wish there were words to ease the aching in your heart…..I found myself coming to your blog numerous times every day, hoping I would read of a miracle. I am so very sorry. My heart is breaking for you and your family. I have read your whole story and sobbed every day for you. Your family has and will continue to be in our prayers.

  11. Katie

    Im so sorry for you loss , I have been following your blog’s and it is heart breaking to read your story …. Your Family and little baby Owen are in my thoughts and Prayers .

  12. Julie

    Praying for you all….may God Bless you in this time of need….

  13. I am so very sorry. Praying for comfort and some sort of peace for you and your family tonight …

  14. another unknown

    I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear sweet Owen. I continue to send thoughts and prayers for you & your family for peace, strength, and grace during this difficult time.

  15. Jessica

    I’m so sorry..I know those words mean very little right now. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family tonight. I pray you find peace and I thank you for sharing Owen’s story with us. I wish there was more I could say or do a parent should never have to say good bye to their child…I can’t even imagine that kind of pain and I cry because you are living through it now. God Bless you and your family.

  16. Ariel

    I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your beautiful Owen. May god’s embrace and love comfort you and your family.

  17. Haley

    I’m so sorry. I’ve been crying for you for days and I don’t even know you. Owen has touched my heart deeply.

  18. mona

    i’m so sorry melissa and doug, i wish there words to make it better, i wish i could wave a wand and make time go backwards, but what i can do is pray for all of you, let someone else be strong now and cling to each other

  19. Sois

    My condolences to you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  20. Sharon

    Mel, we’ve never met, and I don’t know you. A friend of a friend posted your story on FB. I’ve been following praying and weeping tears for you. I have no words, but moans and groanings have been raised and we both know the Holy Spirit knows your hearts needs. I can only continue to pray for your heart in ways I don’t even understand. I just ache for you. I have only Psalms 4:8 to pray for you, “I will both lie down and sleep in peace. For you alone O Lord make me dwell in safety”. I have only tears and prayers for you. I will weep and pray until God tells me otherwise.

  21. Casey Lemp

    Mel-
    My deepest and sincerest sympathies to you and your family. Your story has touched my heart in so many ways. I will continue to keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.

  22. Lisa

    “A life so brief,
    A child so small,
    he had the power to touch us all”

    Rest in peace sweet Owen.

  23. Miriam

    I am so sorry for your loss. I will continue to pray for peace for you and your family. Although you don’t know me – my heart is breaking. I wish there was something I could do or say to take away some of the pain.

  24. Carrie

    A new angel to watch over you and your incredible family in this very difficult time and forever. He will always be here with you in all that you do. I am so very sorry for your loss, but God gained one great kid and gave him wings!

  25. Buffy

    May the angels lift Owen up in their loving arms and comfort and cradle him until you can once again be with him when your job here is done. I hope your heart and your families heal…I’m so sorry. I pray you find peace.

  26. Lydia Yeoman

    I will pray for you and your family

  27. One Mother to another

    Owen’s life and story have made profound impact on many. While my heart tugs and tears come easy, I pray that you grieve, cry, and in time find peace. May you find the vision of Owen holding God’s hand smiling and know that you will see him again. I am so terribly sorry for you loss.

  28. Heather

    My heart is breaking for you…
    We have been praying and praying for you and precious Owen. My son cried himself to sleep last night thinking about your baby boy.
    I don’t have the right words to say, but please know that there are families all over that are thinking of you and grieving with you.
    We will continue to pray for you and your family.

  29. Rhonda

    I am so very sorry and my prayers and thoughts are with you.

  30. Jeanette Murphy

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  31. Laura

    I am so so sorry for your loss & pain. Like many have said I wish I had some comforting words, but they do not exist. I am praying for your family for Owen.
    All my love,
    Laura

  32. leeann

    I’m so sorry for your loss of such a beautiful child.
    May god hold you all close and may Owen’s memory live forever in your hearts and souls. Hang on to eachother and those around you.

    God bless.

  33. MomTwins10

    Tiny Angels rest your wings
    sit with me for awhile.
    How I long to hold your hand,
    And see your tender smile.
    Tiny Angel, look at me,
    I want this image clear….
    That I will forget your precious face
    Is my biggest fear.
    Tiny Angel can you tell me,
    Why you have gone away?
    You weren’t here for very long….
    Why is it, you couldn’t stay?
    Tiny Angel shook his head,
    “These things I do not know….
    But I do know that you love me,
    And that I love you so”.

    Sorry is all i have to say, as it is the same with everyone else. know that God is with you, and That we are praying for comfort for you and your family.

  34. Jessica

    There are breaking hearts all over this country for you and your family. You have been and will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers for a life time. May God heal this pain for all of you and show you that Owen is now safe and happy in his arms.

  35. Crystal

    Oh little Owen, I’m so sad that your family had to say good-bye to you for now, but I know that you’re in good hands. A hug from Jesus must be the best kind of comfort and peace!

  36. Mary

    I am sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  37. Lindsey

    I am so sorry! I do not know you, only through your blog! I cry and pray for you, your family and for little Owen who was taken too soon! The lord has a plan for him, and he is there now. From following your blog, you are a strong woman. Owen is a lucky boy to have a mother like you! Always remember that. Words will never help, but know there are people who are praying for you!

  38. bb

    I cannot fathom how your world’s been ripped apart. And, like everyone else, I wish I had words to offer you any comfort at all. I can’t imagine this will help, but I have this on my wall – it’s helped me through my worst moments. I’m so sorry for your loss. I truly am.

    For winter’s rains and ruins are over,
    And all the season of snows and sins;
    The days dividing lover and lover,
    The light that loses, the night that wins;
    And time remembered is grief forgotten,
    And frosts are slain and flowers begotten,
    And in green underwood and cover
    Blossom by blossom the spring begins.

    Algernon Charles Swinburne
    Atalanta in Calydon (1865)

  39. nicole

    I am so sorry. Praying for you and your entire family.

  40. Cheryl Zima

    God Bless. You are all in our prayers as the newest angel takes his place by God’s side.

  41. Cindy

    I am so sorry….

    • Anita Tully

      Oh Mel, you deserve a moment of silence…
      Will be there ALWAYS for you and your family.. love, Anita

  42. I just came across your blog a few hours ago. My heart breaks for you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers as you enter this new journey .

  43. Lauren

    Not sure what I or anyone can say right now, but I am thinking about you and your family and sending all my love.

  44. Marji Saye

    It is with great sadness that I read this post. I was at church when your boys were baptized and was amazed at the miracle of life. I am so, so sorry that little Owen has passed on. He is in God’s hands now. I pray for strength, healing and courage for you and your family.

  45. I am so very sorry for the loss of your darling Owen. I will be praying for you and your family.

  46. Aimee

    Hello! You do not know me, but we have a mutual friend from FB. I saw her post last night and have been following your blog since. I am so sorry that you are going through this and am absolutely amazed at your strength and faith during this difficult time. God has a plan for you and for your precious little angel Owen. He will continue to live on through your unselfish gift and you will one day hold him again in your arms. Your family has touched many lives, more than you will ever imagine. Praying for your family!!
    God Bless!!!

  47. Kelli Hause

    I do not know you Melissa and Doug but I have been following your posts and my heart is breaking hearing your story. I know it doesn’t make it any easier but you sure have one beautiful angel looking over you and your family. I pray for your hearts to heal and many people are praying and thinking of you and your family tonight.

  48. Juliann

    I’m so very sorry for your loss. Owen and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  49. leanne

    i am so sorry for your terrible loss, i cant imagine the pain you are feeling. I just hope our thoughts and prayers give you a little comfort. You will not be out of my thoughts tonight and i will be giving my babies a bit bigger hug as well. Thinking of you from the other side of the world. Leanne

  50. Susan

    May God bless and keep sweet Owen until you are together again.
    “Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” Matthew 19:14
    My prayers are with you and your family. In the words of my 2-year-old, “Please Jesus be with Owen.” And I know He is.

  51. Teri

    Good-bye sweet, precious Owen. Many, many people are praying for you and your family. You will remain in our hearts forever.

  52. Amy

    I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Continuing to pray for you Melissa and the entire family.

  53. Chris

    My heart is breaking for you, I am so sorry for your loss. You & your family are in my prayers.

  54. Cara

    I know there is nothing that I can say to take away any of the sadness but you and your family are in my thoughts. I found out about your blog through a friend on facebook and had to read and follow the story. My heart aches for you. Know that you gave everything to Owen and that he knew he was loved.

  55. erin

    so sorry for your loss, i am nauseated by what you and your family must be feeling…i dont live far from you, if there is anything my family can do for yours besides pray, please ask. i saw the meal voulenteer site, let us that want to make something know of your families favorites if you get to it. somehow, theres often comfort in food.

  56. Belinda

    Melissa, I’m so sorry. I know from experience there is nothing I can say to make the pain any better. I’m amazed at your attitude and how strong you seem to be and wish I could find some of that strength. Your family is so honorable to donate Owen’s organs. Your kind heart is keeping other families from loosing their child. We wanted to donate Piper’s organs as well, but we couldn’t because of the disease she had. One day, maybe you will get to meet the children who Owen has saved. I always felt like that would have brought me some peace had we been able to do it. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

  57. Lisa

    We are all praying for you and are so so sorry the little Owen has gone to Heaven!!

  58. So sorry Melissa and family, my deepest sympathies. I will be praying now for comfort.

  59. Amy

    I can’t fathom your pain. All I can do is promise to hold you and your family up in prayer. Love and hugs coming your way. Remember to let people help and carry you when you cannot do it yourself. You are an amazing woman and someday, if not on earth, but in heaven, you will understand the reason for this. Until then, stay strong.

  60. Karen

    If only prayers, love, hope, and tears from every corner of the world where they have read your beautiful words were enough. My heart breaks for you. I will keep your story with me always. God bless you, your sweet Owen, and your incredible family.

  61. praying for god’s peace that passes all understanding to wrap you up and hold you close. i am so, so sorry…

  62. karen

    your angel has been set free to fly. May you always rest on your families branch’s. My heart is breaking for your loss!

  63. You don’t know me, but we’re praying for you. My heart is so heavy for you and your family. May God grant you His peace which passes all understanding.

    God had a special purpose for Owen. I pray that you someday find out what that is and I pray that it brings you joy, knowing that His purposes are always perfect.

  64. Dave Baxter

    Mel and Doug,
    Having lost an infant son myself 32 years ago I want to speak to you two directly. As the days pass by you’re going to feel a variety of emotions from sadness, anger, disbelief, doubt, and more. What I want to stress to the two of you is not to hold your feelings in. Talk to each other no matter how painful it may be, keep an open line of communication between the two of you. I can’t stress this enough, you need each other more than ever. Lean on your friends for support, that’s why we call them friends. As I write this to you I’m welling up with tears for your loss just knowing what you’re going through. Cherish the time you shared with little Owen and know that you now have an angel watching over you.

  65. Shannon

    Hello,
    I came across your website after a link was posted on a triplet board on facebook that i belong to.
    I am also a mom to triplets (2.5 year old ggb) and my boy passed away a week ago today from leukemia.
    Although I dont know you personally I can relate to what you are going through. If you ever need to talk I am here.
    I am so sorry…this isnt right…

  66. Amy Rosno

    Rest in peace, little Owen. During your short life, you have touched many. My thoughts are with the Bissing/Medal family.

  67. Jamie Marquardt

    Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. Your family will be in our prayers and we will all pray for Heaven’s new angel, Owen.

  68. verna

    May the LORD bring a peace that passes all understanding.

  69. Amy

    My heart breaks for you and your family. Sending thoughts, prayers and hugs to you and your family.

  70. carrie

    I am a fellow triplet mom. My heart is absolutely broken for you. Sending my love and prayers.

  71. Melissa

    My heart breaks for you, your husband, and sons. May all the joy and happiness he has brought you bring you peace and comfort during this time. May God Bless you and take care of you…

  72. Mary

    I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping you all close in prayer at this time.

  73. Jamie Hewitt

    I am so deeply sorry for your loss.

  74. kimberly

    I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you, but rejoices that little Owen is with Jesus. You can look forward to Heaven even more now.

    Love in Christ,
    Kimberly

  75. Kristy D'abruzzo

    My heart breaks or you. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your sweet Owen.

  76. Scott and Rita Ebbott

    Four little fingers,
    One little thumb.
    Yours to hold,
    For a time to come.

    There will come a day,
    That I will say, “let go”.
    Tis only my hand I speak of,
    Not my heart, I hope you know…
    R. Ebbott

    Owen may have let go of your hand way to soon, but he will never let go of your heart. In the weeks to come you will go through even more emotions then you ever knew you could experience. They may frighten you, frustrate you, anger you, numb you or cause you more pain and grief then you ever thought you’d feel. But ultimately they will HEAL you. More then anything I could ever say to you and your family at this time is to let yourself FEEL however you want to feel. Know that there are many people who love you and are praying still. Our prayers will continue for you and your family. And for Baby Owen, that he may rest peacefully within our Saviors arms until he can hold your hand once again. God Bless you Melissa and Doug, and may you find PEACE in God’s promise to bring you home someday to your beautiful Baby Boy.

  77. Kristy F.

    I’m heartbroken for you and don’t have the right words. Just sending love and prayers your way.

  78. Megan

    My heart is breaking for you and your family. I saw the link for your blog on Facebook and I had to read about your beautiful family. I know words cannot ease your pain and devastation but I want you to know you are not alone. I lost my little boy 11 years ago and every time I read of parents who have lost a child I add them to my mental list of those who need prayers. So even though I never met your little boy please know he has touched lives he was never even present in. I hope for peace for all of you in the weeks and years to come

  79. Gina

    My heart aches for you. Owen is now in the hands of the Lord, and an angel to your family. Let your light shine little Owen!! You have done great things. May peace be with your family.

  80. Mel and family, I am sobbing for you! I am saddened and angry for you too. How? Why? I know it must seem like a nightmare, not your reality. I just want to hug you so tight. I am so sorry. There are no words to say to make Owen come back or to lighten the load you feel but please know you are on our hearts and minds and I am praying Jesus holds you where you are. I know He is weeping with you too. Please call me or email if you need ANYTHING. Just to talk or whatever. Love you all! Clint, Rachel and family 859.229.4607 rachelwood4@gmail.com

  81. Laura

    I just came across this blog today as a close friend was recruiting prayers. My heart goes out to you and your family and I will be praying for all of you. May God be with you and give you strength.

  82. Becky

    I am incredibly sorry for your loss. You do not know me, but I have been following your blog. No mother should have to go through the pain you are experiencing. I sit here and tears are rolling down my face as I think about what you have endured. I admire your strength. I will continue to pray for you and your family. God bless.

  83. I just heard about your sweet boy yesterday through a mutual friend. How devestating for your entire family – I’ve been moved to tears each time I’ve come to check the site, and was praying for a miracle. What a beautiful and unselfish thing to donate Owen’s organs – to help others during your time of grief – what a gift you are giving. I’m so very sorry. Very sorry.

  84. I am so very, very sorry! There’s nothing better that I can say. I’m just so sorry. 😦

  85. Stephanie

    Praying for God’s comfort and peace to surround you at this time.

  86. Tina Tessar

    I’m so sorry to hear that I will b praying for your family

  87. Jaymie

    God Bless you and your family. May you find peace in this difficult time.

  88. Sarah

    My heart is breaking for your family. I am so very sorry for your loss.

  89. Valerie

    Praying for your family.

  90. Heather

    I am so sorry for you and your family’s loss. my heart is breaking. there are no words when a precious child is taken too soon. i have faith that Owen will be watching over you and your family.
    RIP Owen

  91. Barb

    Rest in piece sweet little Owen! Me and my children will only pray a prayer of strength, guidance, and patients for those of u that are left behind waiting for it to be ur turn to enter the gates of heaven and be reunited with sweet little Owen! Always know that Gods love and the love of every one of his children and followers who have come to know u thru this tragidy will always be with you and ur family.

  92. Kim

    Melissa, Doug and family,
    My thoughts and prayers are with your family. My deepest condolences.

  93. Missi

    Go fly with the angles sweet Owen!!!! Until you and your Mommy and Daddy can meet again, may God hold you in the palm of his hand!

  94. Anne

    We have been following you blog closely this week praying for a miracle. We are so sorry for your loss – Let your light shine little angel ^^Owen^^ – You have done great things.

  95. I’m so very sorry, I can’t even imagine.

  96. Oh Mel, I’m so so sorry. As a fellow triplet mom, I just can’t imagine the pain and disbelief you are dealing with. I hope you can feel all of the prayers and love surrounding you now and forever.

  97. Katie

    Your words are so real. Your emotion so raw. Thank you for sharing your Owen with us. You do not know me, but it is strange how people I know…know you and your amazing family. The smallness of the world never ceases to amaze me. You are amazing, you will ALWAYS be a mama of triplets and your dear Jaden. When you meet people who remark about your “twins” you will want to punch them in the face, but hopefully over time…you will just smile and think, “We tricked another one, Owen!” He will live on in your other 3 boys… Hugs and prayers to you on this most difficult of nights… from one mommy to another… I am so very sorry.

  98. Kelly Boss

    So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers to your family.

  99. Marya

    Prayers and tears for you and your angel. May God hold him in the palm of His hands.

  100. Kristin P.

    I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  101. Trinity

    I’m so sorry to hear of little Owen. Someone so little has touched us all and he will never be forgotten. I wish you peace & strength and may your memories of Owen live forever in your hearts and the smiles of his brothers.

  102. KN

    I have read all of your blogs, it was forwarded to me from a friend. Sadly it is all to familiar to me as I have been there. I want you to know I will keep you and your family in my prayers as you have a long road ahead of you. This is an indescribable pain and the only pain worse is to watch your other children suffer and there is nothing you can do. Again, I will pray for you to have strength to go forward. God bless.

  103. Jean

    Oh…how I just cry for your loss. May the light of his smile, the sweet sounds he made and the love he gave help you get through this difficult time. My love, thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and Owen.

  104. Tamara Whelan-Malone

    My heart is broken for you. How lucky you are to be his momma and how lucky he is to be your son, that is forever. God bless and keep you Owen. Praying for comfort and peace for you and your family Mel. You will always be in my heart and prayers…

  105. Shandi

    My heart is broke for you and your family. My tears are for Owen and all of you. Our thoughts and prayers are always with you!! I’m so sorry for your loss.

  106. Megan

    No words only tears. Praying for you all.

  107. Carly

    I am so so sorry. My heart is breaking for your family.

  108. A stranger here because all the triplet moms are holding you in our hearts. I am so very sorry.

  109. Sue

    Sending you and your family my thoughts, prayers, and hugs. There are no words.

  110. Tami

    Sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family.

  111. Pastor Frank

    In the love of God, nothing can separate us. I’m praying that all your prayers are answered. Love, Pastor Frank

  112. Keri

    I was so touched by your story and how your words expressed so touchingly all the emotions you have felt throughout this unimaginable tragedy. You are strong and I pray for peace for you, Owen , and your family. You will be with Owen again and until then he is your most special angel!

  113. Elizabeth Enriquez

    “Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.” – Eskimo Proverb
    My family has a star in the sky that we all picked to be our sweet baby nephew Cire. We all decided the star next to his is now Owen’s, so we will thinking of you and your family and dear Owen every time we see his star.

  114. Lisa

    We will all find words and prayers for you…….I pray for peace for you and your family……

  115. Bev

    Mel, Doug, and little ones,
    I cannot fathom what you are feeling now. But I have faith that Owen is with Jesus right now. I can almost see him on his lap. What peace he has. I know he is a little angel who will watch over his three brothers and his parents and his very special grandma Pam. Continue to keep the faith. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. God’s peace be with you all.

  116. Katie H

    I just stumbled on your blog and wanted to offer my condolences.
    I am so sorry to hear about little Owen.

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