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RIP Breastfeeding

The time has come to say goodbye to nursing.  After mastitis during the triplet’s baptism weekend and now third degree hickys (blisters) on my right side – I’m throwing in the towel!

I know you’re going to say that I gave it a good go, but I still feel guilty/bad.  To be quite honest, I feel like I’m failing at my mom duty.

Seriously, God made boobs to make milk and mine aren’t doing their job well (or maybe too well ha!).  I can’t get the words “real moms breast feed their babies” out of my head.  What I want to know is who put them there?  This is going to be a physical as well as emotional process.  I just keep picturing Dori –

Lots of things are going to change with no longer pumping.  For one thing, I’ll get 5-6 hours back to my day!  Doug said jokingly last night “You’ll have two more hours back to the day to clean more!”  Ummm really?  He thinks I only spent two hours pumping?  Secondly, cleaning?  I’m thinking more time to play with the kids, take a shower, cook, craft, the list goes on forever!  I just smiled and nodded … let him think it was only two hours  –  the other 3-4 hours will be my little secret.  Shhhhhh

No more washing bottle/pumping parts.  Man I have really grown to loath washing all those itty bitty parts and having to wash them 6 times a day!  Now all the baby stuff can be put in the dishwasher.  Loving that part!

The not so great part is the $ coming out of the checking account.  I’m already planning regular shopping trips to Sam’s Club.  AND once I get the kid’s birth certificates (LONG story as to why I still don’t have them) I’ll be able to send letters for free stuff.  Let’s be honest though, formula will be cheaper than me spending a few weeks in the loony bin!  To be brutally honest, medical bills SUCK!  and they just keep coming.  Wait, did I just turn a negative into a positive?  No longer pumping = less medical bills  🙂

Considering I was pumping 16 oz every 4 hours, I can’t stop cold turkey.  This is going to be a process.  After talking with the doc, here’s my plan:  wear a tight sports bra 24/7, pump only when I just can’t stand it anymore, avoid long hot shower (who has time for those anyways?), only pump for 10-15 mins to relieve pressure.  I’m not sure how long it will take to be done but I’m thinking it’ll be at least a week if not two or three.  Man it’ll be nice to have my body back 🙂  Another positive!

So if I can keep focusing on the positives, maybe the emotional process will go smoother.  Having my very own personal cheerleader named Rachael also helps.  I can do this!

Love, Mel



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A Day in the Life

When talking with Doug tonight he made a comment that he thinks I spend 8 hours a day on the computer. HA! Yeah right!  But it made me realize that unless you live it, you probably don’t know what a day in the life of Melissa is like.  So I thought I’d do my best to give some insight on what goes on in the Bissing household all day.


6:00 am — wake up, use the bathroom (otherwise you’ll have to wait until 9am!), make coffee, start warming up bottles and changing diapers

6:15 -7:15 am — feed babies while directing Jaden to eat breakfast and get dressed

7:15 – 7:45 am — pump

7:45 – 8:00 am — quick shower and get dressed

8:00-8:15 am — get Jaden dressed for the bus stop (snow pants, coat, hat mittens, backpack)

8:15 am — leave for the bus stop

8:23 am — bus picks up Jaden

8:25 am — back in the house

8:25 – 9:00 am — empty clean dishwasher, load bottles from night feedings, check email and blow dry hair

9:00 – 10:15 am — feeding again!

10:15 – 11:00 am — free time!  I fold clothes, read a book, clean up the kitchen, craft or more dishes – any of these is usually accompanied by a mid morning snack

11:00 – 11:30 am — pumping

11:30 – 11:45 am — load bottles from last two feedings in the dishwasher

11:45 – 11:55 am — leave for the bus stop and get the mail

11:55 am – 12:30 pm — make Jaden lunch and make sure he eats it.  I usually sit a the table with him and get the low down on his morning at school

12:30 – 12:50 pm — clean up lunch and hang with Jaden for a little bit

12:50 pm — Mom calls to check in for the day and let me know she’s on her way over!

1:00 – 2:00 pm — feeding time again,  Jaden grabs a blankie and cuddles up on the couch.  We usually watch Tom and Jerry cartoons.  Mom arrives at about 1:15-1:30 and jumps in to help with the feedings

2:00 – 4:00 pm — hang out time.  We do any of the following but usually only one of the following: bath time, laundry, play Nintendo/Wii, I run errands, doc appointments or on a rare occasion I sneak in a nap

4:00 – 5:00 pm — feeding time again

5:00 – 5:30 pm — I decide what I’m going to make for dinner and get Jaden started on his meal

5:30 pm — Doug gets home

5:30 – 6:00 pm — Doug gets settled from work, I finish dinner and Doug & I eat

6:00 – 7:00 pm — Jaden takes a shower/bath and gets his lotion on

7:00 – 7:30 pm — I brush Jaden’s teeth and we read two stories in his recliner chair in his room (same one I rocked him in when he was a baby!)

7:30 – 8:30 pm — chase Jaden back to bed while trying to feed the babies.  Doug and I have our shows playing in the background too

8:30 – 11:00 pm — Doug and I catch up on TV, I play farmville, clean up the kitchen for the night and put away the dinner dishes

11:00 pm — last feeding of the day!

12:00 am — Doug and I head off to bed


There we have it!  A day in the life of Melissa Bissing.

What do you think?

All the triplet moms said how much they needed a schedule.  I thought in the back of my head, “schedules are great and all, but I don’t need that much structure, I like to to be flexible.”  Boy oh boy do I need my schedule!  When we wake up late, it ruins the entire day.  I struggle to get back on track.  I think it’s because there are so many balls in the air that must be caught (mainly getting Jaden to and from the bus stop).  If one thing is behind, it’s a snowball effect.  For example, if I don’t start pumping no later than 11:10 am, I am in serious trouble of being late in getting Jaden from the bus stop.  It’s really hard to understand unless you do it every day.  I know I had a hard time understanding the first few weeks I was actually living it.

I hope summer will bring some new and fun activities to add to our schedule.  The one nice weather day last week we took a walk outside was absolutely amazing!  Not feeling cluttered and feeling a little free outside was great.  I’m going to have Jaden outside as much as possible.  We are talking sprinklers, kiddie pools, sand box, swings, sidewalk chalk and bike rides.

Mom has off of school on Thursday and Friday of this week.  Looking forward to seeing what kind of trouble we can get into!

Love, Mel

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Dear Cheese,

Dear Cheese,

I’m going to miss you … but this isn’t a good bye, it’s an “until later.”  We need to take a break.  Lately I feel like you have been upsetting everyone around you – mainly Logan.  He spits up and his face is all broken out.  I know what you’re saying – it’s Winter’s fault.  But I just don’t buy it.  The only way to know who is telling the truth is to take a break for a while.  If the kids start to feel better, then we’ll know it was you.  And if not, then our break won’t have to last that long.

This is going to be hard for me too – in fact, I think it’s going to torture me not to see you.  We’ll always have the memories of our lunch dates of grilled cheese and mac’n’cheese.  Oh and our romantic Italian dinners – you (cheese) me and pasta were such a great three-some!  It’ll be hard not to think of you at every meal … or every time I eat for that matter.

I think it’s best I don’t see your family either – milk and butter.  Not only do they remind me of you but they are upsetting the babies too.  It’s hard for me to remember them … I often forget to check if they are in food before diving in.  But the truth is – seeing them is just as hard for the threelets as it is seeing you.

You are everywhere I look in the kitchen.  It’s hard to do or eat anything without seeing you there.  Please know that I’m not replacing you when new food, I just can’t bear to see you in the cabinet and know that I can’t have you.  I know you are jealous of Silk but I only see her because my coffee is lonely without your cousin creamer.  When this experiment is over, cousin creamer can have her spot back with my morning coffee.    Between you and me, Silk doesn’t even COMPARE to your cousin creamer.  She is truly missed.

I hope this helps answer why I’ve been so distant.  Cheese – I love you!  I miss you already.  Just remember that this isn’t goodbye for good – just until we find out what’s going on with the triplets.

Love, Melissa

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Needing a Little Motivation!

This pumping is really starting to get old.  Blisters, sore nipples, over sleeping and waking up in so much pain!  So, for a little motivation, I thought I’d do some research on how much money we were actually saving.

Each baby drinks 3oz at each feeding, every 3 hours.  That’s 8 times a day for a total of 72 oz a day (3oz x 3 babies x 8 times a day).

A 19.8 oz can of Enfamil formula makes about 139 oz of formula and costs $29.69.  That means we would go thru approximately a can of formula every other day.  That works out to:

  • $14.85 a day
  • $103.92 a week
  • $467.62 a month!

I can be motivated by over $450 a month!  Now how much do I make an hour?

I pump for about 20 mins every 3 hours.  20 mins x 8 times a day = 2 hours and 40 mins of pumping a day.  Take the $14.85 a day and divide by hours means I make about $5.57 per hour pumping milk.  Is that even minimum wage these days?  So that means I could be a cashier at Wal-Mart part-time and make up for the money we’d use on formula?  Come on!  Not feeling as motivated now.

Since being a cashier at Wal-Mart is not really an option … I wonder how much money I’ve already saved for the family by pumping.

The kids are 7 weeks old today.  So … 7 weeks x $103.92 = $727.44!!  In another week or so I’ll have saved about $1000!  Ok .. that’s a better number than making less than minimum wage 🙂

That’s all the math I have time for today.  Not only do my brain muscles hurt a little, but it’s time to pump again.  Oh the irony!


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My Own Remedies

So I’ve been trying to clear up the mastitis and clogged milk ducts since Sunday.  So far only my fever has gone away.  My milk is still WAY clogged.  I get 5-7 oz on the left and only 2 oz on the right.  I have tried everything!

  • Warm, wet compresses
  • Massages
  • Cabbage leaves in my bra (I felt like a walking salad … afraid of being attached by hungry rabbits)
  • Taking Lecithin supplements (have no idea what it is but the lactation specialist recommended it)
  • Upgrading my pump to the hospital brand
  • Pumping more frequently

Nothing is working!!!  So I’ve come up with a few remedies of my own.

  • She-ot-zoo massage
  • One of those ultrasonic things they use to break up kidney stones
  • Boobie Drain-o – Just start an IV and let it run!

Anyone else have any ideas for a fix?  I’m getting all flustered.  It was working out so well and now I’m all bent out of shape that I might be going down the same path I did with Jaden.  For now I’ll just keep praying to the TaTa Gods.  I wonder if they take offerings or bribes …

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